“Nobody likes me! Everybody hates me! I’m going to eat some worms.” Kids sang this little chorus years ago, especially when they were at odds with their friends. Of course, the sentiment didn’t last long but the words reveal the thoughts of many people including adults at different times of their lives.
Often, when we have been through a long struggle or a harsh event in …our life, we become physically and emotionally separated from friends and loved ones. We struggle to fit in but many know the intense feeling of loneliness even as we stand in a large crowd. We might not sing the words “Nobody likes me!” but the reality is the feeling gnaws away deep inside.
It’s at those times, we need to put a guard up in our hearts. Not because someone is out to get us, but the truth is the enemy of our soul wants to use it to bring about more separation. Little half-truths begin ringing on our ears. Brother Sycamore didn’t speak to me or Sister Sue looked right through me. We forget that others have personal struggles and sometimes they are pre-occupied too.
Other times, our actions and attitudes push everyone away. We could be angry over matters we can’t control, or maybe a loved one deeply hurt us. Fear is another factor that contributes to these situations and has paralyzed many from allowing people to get close to us. Concern over what others think brings terror to some hearts. In others, there is a deep-seated panic that if someone sees the real you that they will no longer be a friend.
But the truth is, the Lord is always waiting for us to turn to Him. He desires to be in a one on one relationship with Him. He loves you just as much as He loves the brother in front of us or the sister working in the nursery. We can rest in the fact that He knows the real us. He sees our real heart and still loves us and His love will never fail or fade.
As we struggle through those times of intense loneliness, we can rest in the knowledge our Heavenly Father waits and even longs to communicate with us. He might minister words of comfort through a sermon, song or even a phone call. It might come through a hug, a card, or the Scriptures. While we might feel alone, we need to remember we are NEVER truly alone. That is His promise and He always keeps His promises. Hebrews 13:5 Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”